First things first: Alan Cohen is hilarious. In addition to being laugh-out-loud funny, Cohen is also wonderfully wise. How do you peel away the lies? Then imagine you have a tuner capable of receiving its signal. If you set your tuner to the right frequency, you hear the broadcast and pick up vital information. If your dial is set elsewhere, you miss the message. The source of your strength is inside of you. Did you know that goldfish are kept tiny by their little tiny bowls?
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The cult mentality leads to aberrant behavior like mass suicides at Jonestown and Heaven's Gate. Bottom line: If someone tells you what tennis shoes to wear, run like hell. It's going to be tricky falling in love with yourself if you are fascinated with someone else. You can love someone, respect them, learn from them, have a fabulous time with them, and honor them as a role model.
Just don't diminish yourself in the process. We are told that Jesus said, "Even greater things than I, shall you do," indicating he regarded his students as powerful in their own right. Recognize that power within you, and you won't have any pedestals crashing on you. Don't just love the one you're with--be the one you love. You Imitate Instead of Create Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, but self-suffocating if you do not grow beyond it.
Ralph Waldo Emerson declared, "Imitation is suicide. In the early stages of skill or character development, imitation is helpful if you choose a good role model. When I first learned to cook, I used recipes and turned out some tasty dishes.
But after a while I grew bored. Why follow someone else's formula when I could create my own? After that, I never cooked the same dish twice. Cooking became a great adventure! Imitating role models is like using training wheels on a child's bicycle; they help you get going, but once you find your own rhythm and balance, you fly faster and farther without leaning on them. In relationships, imitation can hurt us if we subconsciously hold poor role models. If, as a child, you observed people whose lives sucked, you may have accepted their fear and pain as normal and gone on to settle for what they did.
Then you espouse your culture's prejudices, re-create your parents' marriage, and become the parent your parents were to you. If you were empowered by the models you observed, you are good to go. But if what you saw delivered heartache, you cannot afford to perpetuate it. If you do not make strong choices for yourself, you will reap the results of the weak choices of others.
In the field of entertainment, our culture glorifies celebrities who are talented in one domain but have not come to terms with the deeper issues of their lives. They look great on-screen, run like lightning on the football field, or boast impressive bottom lines on their financial statements--but when they step offscreen or off the playing field, their personal lives are disastrous.
Then you read about them ODing, shooting someone, or mucking through a colossal divorce battle. They are great role models for talent, but terrible models for character. If you are going to emulate someone, focus on their talent, not their aberration. Or just pick someone who is happy. Imitation also backfires on us in education. As sophisticated as our school system is, it still rewards conformity far more than originality. If you learn how to play the school game, you can regurgitate your way through your doctorate and still live a million miles from joy.
Many of my college psychology professors were neurotic, confused, and caught up in a gnarly rat race of performance, competition, and mind games. Meanwhile, the custodian who cleaned their offices whistled, smiled, and had a kind word for everyone he met. Who was closer to winning the game of life? In many industries you can maintain a livelihood by executing the formula. Mass-market movies have a formula, as do novels and marketing plans.
They work, and they work for a reason. But such creations are typically nonmemorable and do not make any significant contribution except to put money in the pockets of the producers.
Blessed is the person who is willing to follow their gut impulse to create something unique, beyond the known. Think of the movies, books, teachers, and friends who have affected you most deeply, and you will realize that they did not fit the mold. They touched you because their creations were motivated by inspiration, not desperation. The world is changed not by those who do what has been done before them, but by those who do what has been done inside them.
Creativity is as much a muscle as the heart, and no less vital. The more creative you are, the more creative you become; deny your visions, and they atrophy. Creative people are tapped into an endless resource of ideas. A creator's dilemma is not running out of material; it is what to do with all the material knocking at the door of imagination.
Bumper sticker: Reality is for people who can't deal with imagination. She has morning breath and unresolved father issues. In a short time your fantasy lover crashes from Mt. Olympus to Brooklyn. Ah, now you can have a real relationship, built from the earth up instead of heaven down. And along the way you will discover your own worth, intrinsic in you rather than bestowed by them. If you indulge someone else putting you on a pedestal, be prepared for an insurrection.
When they discover you are not who they thought you were or they cannot have you, out come the spears. It takes just a six-inch fall for a halo to become a noose. Rock star Selena was killed by the former president of her fan club. To avoid such an untimely demise, stand naked in your humanity and refuse to accept googoo-eyed adoration, which always comes with a price tag. In the course of my work I have occasionally received letters from women who believe I am their soulmate.
They read my book or attended my seminar, and decided I am the one for them. Yes, 11 I have done the same kind of thing. But my non-plan backfired. Sooner or later I would receive an angry letter chastising me for letting them down and not being the person I claimed to be.
But I never claimed to be that person. They claimed I was that person, and were upended by their lofty expectations. I was insane. I respond as one perfectly imperfect human being to another, which honors them along with me, and paves the way for true communication. Rather than projecting romantic fantasies, followers project religious fantasies. But the dynamics are the same; self-effacement always leads to anger, depression, and self-strangling.
They demonstrate by example there is just as much God in the student as the teacher. We are all equal expressions of the Great Spirit, and you only hurt yourself by elevating someone above you.
Why become a Buddhist when you can become a Buddha? Bottom line: If someone tells you what tennis shoes to wear, run like hell. It's going to be tricky falling in love with yourself if you are fascinated with someone else. You can love someone, respect them, learn from them, have a fabulous time with them, and honor them as a role model.
You Imitate instead of Create Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, but self-suffocating if you do not grow beyond it. In the early stages of skill or character development, imitation is helpful if you choose a good role model.
When I first learned to cook, I used recipes and turned out some tasty dishes. But after a while I grew bored.
After that, I never cooked the same dish twice. Cooking became a great adventure! In relationships, imitation can hurt us if we subconsciously hold poor role models. If, as a child, you observed people whose lives sucked, you may have accepted their fear and pain as normal and gone on to settle for what they did.
If you were empowered by the models you observed, you are good to go. But if what you saw delivered heartache, you cannot afford to perpetuate it. If you do not make strong choices for yourself, you will reap the results of the weak choices of others. In the field of entertainment, our culture glorifies celebrities who are talented in one domain but have not come to terms with the deeper issues of their lives.
Then you read about them O. They are great role models for talent, but terrible models for character. If you are going to emulate someone, focus on their talent, not their aberration. Or just pick someone who is happy. Imitation also backfires on us in education. As sophisticated as our school system is, it still rewards conformity far more than originality. If you learn how to play the school game, you can regurgitate your way through your doctorate and still live a million miles from joy.
Many of my college psychology professors were neurotic, confused, and caught up in a gnarly rat race of performance, competition, and mind games. Meanwhile, the custodian who cleaned their offices whistled, smiled, and had a kind word for everyone he met. Who was closer to winning the game of life? In many industries you can maintain a livelihood by executing the formula. Mass-market movies have a formula, as do novels and marketing plans. They work, and they work for a 13 reason.
But such creations are typically unmemorable and do not make any significant contribution except to put money in the pockets of the producers. Blessed is the person who is willing to follow their gut impulse to create something unique, beyond the known. Think of the movies, books, teachers, and friends who have affected you most deeply, and you will realize that they did not fit the mold. They touched you because their creations were motivated by inspiration, not desperation.
The world is changed not by those who do what has been done before them, but by those who do what has been done inside them. Creativity is as much a muscle as the heart, and no less vital. The more creative you are, the more creative you become; deny your visions, and they atrophy. Creative people are tapped into an endless resource of ideas.
You will not connect with your muse by following the herd; most of them are rambling over a cliff. A smaller flock will take off when they reach the edge.
If you have been hypnotized to believe you are a lemming, you will plunge with the crowd. If you remember you have wings, you will soar.
Fortune is not something that happens to you. It is something you create. You can make anything work in your favor. Study your role models, accept the gifts they have bestowed, and leave behind what does not serve you. We get into trouble not because we do not know what to do, but because we do not pay attention to what we know. Then imagine you have a tuner capable of receiving its signal. If you set your tuner to the right frequency, you hear the broadcast and pick up vital information.
If your dial is set elsewhere, you miss the message. You were born with your tuner set to KNOW. Children and animals have their tuners well set; they know who they are and can sense people and situations that match their well-being or threaten it.
As you became socialized, you were seduced away from KNOW. Eventually externallygenerated signals drowned out the voice of KNOW, and you felt lost and confused.
But you are not stupid; you just disregarded what you knew in deference to the outer voices shrieking at you. Ignorance and errors are incurable, but ignorance is easily rectified by respecting your inner genius. Several years ago I was planning to meet my musician friend Charley Thweatt in Los Angeles for a seminar we were to co-present. Although I could have done this, something inside me told me to book a later flight. I judged myself as being lazy and felt guilty for asking Charley to wait hours for me, but I decided to go with my gut and I booked a flight to land around 2 p.
When I arrived, Charley was not there. I phoned his airline and learned that his connecting flight through Denver had been delayed by snow.
He finally arrived at 3 p. Listening to my inner voice paid off big time. Your gut knowing is keenly aware of your right place and it signals you when you approach unhealthy situations.
Animals become restless when an earthquake is imminent; studies show a correlation between newspaper ads for lost pets and earthquakes that soon follow. Other studies indicate a higher rate of last-minute cancellations for airplane flights that crash. While we may 15 be tempted to look outside ourselves for advice, we are all quite brilliant and know a lot more about our path and destiny than we recognize.
When something is right for you, something inside you knows. For thousands of years, people seeking guidance have consulted an oracle. We have been trained to go to only our brain for answers, while the heart offers deeper wisdom. Successful leaders make use of both faculties. On many occasions I have had to wake up at a particular time, but did not have an alarm clock. My inner timekeeper took over and responded impeccably.
As I opened my eyes, the second hand on the clock was touching the number 12 at precisely 7 a. I once took a kayak out with a friend and paddled up the Hanalei River on the magnificent island of Kauai. When we rented the kayak in the morning, I left my wallet and car keys at the rental office for safekeeping.
Later in the day, far upstream, we pulled the kayak off to the side of the river and rested in the high grasses. Suddenly it occurred to me that I did not know when the rental office would close and we might need to get back by a certain time to retrieve my valuables. I put the idea off, but a minute later I felt a very strong urge to leave, as if someone was prodding me with a poker.
Talk about timing! The manager was explaining to them that it was too late. But our kayak still had the remainder of a hour rental. So we gave them our kayak and they got a free trip! This experience demonstrates that intuition operates at a level far deeper than the surface mind. I did not know what time the kayak office closed; we had no timepiece; and I certainly had no idea my friends would be at the office seeking a rental.
When you trust your inner promptings and act on them, synchronicity works with amazing precision. If you had access to an advisor who gave you perfect guidance every time you consulted them, would you not go there first? Just pay more attention to what is going on inside you than what is going on around you. Move from your deepest knowing, and all the right doors will open. While Truman thinks he is making free personal choices, every aspect of his life is manipulated by a calculating producer watching from a distant control booth.
Eventually Truman gets wind of the scheme and tries to escape from the small town he has never ventured beyond. The truth is that he prefers his world. Sometimes it seems easier to let other people decide for you, and in matters that are inconsequential, it is no big deal. But if you make important life choices by default, you will never know who you are or 17 deliver your unique gifts to the world.
And tragic. You can be walking through normal activities, by all appearances fully alive, but if your soul is decrepit, you cannot truly say you are living. How much life you embody or miss depends on how true you are to your personal choices. When callers dial a long-distance number from a pay phone, an operator comes on the line and asks them which long-distance company they want to use.
This is all perfectly legal. It works because people leave their choices to others. In junior high school Dave Barry was a class clown and often found himself in trouble for cracking jokes during class. With many popular books to his credit, he writes the most widely syndicated humor column in American newspapers. And won a Pulitzer Prize along the way.
Dave Barry is joking his way through life, and doing quite well at it. And he would have been just one more walking corpse. In the long run, you are the one who will have to live with your decisions, so make sure they represent your true desires. We are like the musk deer, who searches the mountains and valleys for the source of an intoxicating aroma, only to discover it was emanating from its own self.
Immediately Shelly begins to receive money, meet men, and enjoy all manner of success she has been seeking for a long time. Your life is not what the stars, numbers, genetics, environment, politics, or economic conditions make it; it is what you make it. External variables influence, but internal variables determine.
To really live, let go of any idea that anything outside you determines your destiny. The force that determines your destiny is you. Dump the concept of luck. Lucky people attract positive events because they think lucky. People who continually attract negative events hold patterns of thought that match them. What you dwell on, you dwell in.
Your stars and numbers do not cause; they reflect. In the long run, they are what you make of them. Any divination system is only as good as it honors your power to choose. Even the best psychics acknowledge that nothing is set in stone. Events may be 19 headed in a direction, but free will always supercedes predestination. If an advisor, including a physician, tells you that you are stuck with a certain situation for life and have no control over it, run even faster than from the people who tell you what tennis shoes to wear.
You have just fallen into a power denial. You have access to greater possibilities. If any or all of this sounds like too much to ask, you still think someone or something outside you pulls the strings of your life.
But anything less than living fully from choice is too little to ask. Your true strength resides in holding your power in the midst of those who have abdicated theirs.
Most people take what is given them and assume it is their destiny. Great spirits take what is given them and make their own destiny. Take what you have and make what you want. When you are ready to stand in our own authority, your world will reshape itself around your intentions. The words authority and authentic derive from the same root word, which signifies that the route to genuine power is realness. Real power is not power over others; it is power to be yourself.
Anyone who needs to dominate or defeat others to feel powerful is disconnected from their authentic power. When you struggle with another for power, neither of you have it. Any power you vie for is not worth having; while someone seems to win, both lose. It is not a limited commodity someone can take from you; it is unlimited energy available to everyone at all times. If everyone lived from their true 20 power, we would take the energy we have invested in strife and reallocate it for unprecedented achievement.
No matter how much you have given your power away, the game is not over until you reclaim it. This is not a game of sudden death, but sudden life. It appears that we live until we die, while in reality we die until we live. No matter how long you have traveled; what trials you have faced; and what errors you have made, you can transform it all into gold. Everything you have gone through is a setup for awakening. Remind yourself now, and you will play the game of your life.
Behind him, a seven-foot bull shark silently stalked. Suddenly Jesse felt a shocking wrench on his right arm, followed by excruciating pain. In one terrible moment his arm was gone. He grabbed the shark by the tail, freed Jesse, and wrestled the shark to shore. Within 20 minutes Jesse was airlifted to a hospital, where he arrived with no breath, pulse, or blood pressure. The operation was successful and Jesse regained consciousness.
Today he has use of both arms. This extraordinary account demonstrates our power to choose rather than settle. A few would have snatched the boy from the sea and hoped he lived.
But that was not good enough for Uncle Vance. He wanted his nephew alive, and he wanted both of his arms intact. And that is what he got. If you settle for less than what you really want, you will get exactly that. If you expect your life to suck, it will.
Many of us have spent a lot of our lives trying to swim through life missing an arm. Painful experiences have gnawed away our resilience and chewed up our initiative.
Some of us have swum one-armed for so long and observed so many others doing so that we have come to accept brokenness as a fact of life and do not question swimming in circles. If you refuse to settle for dismembered existence, you can restore your wholeness. You do not walk alone. For many years I avoided flushing while sitting, confident I was escaping the dreaded tush cold. Then one day at the age of about 30, I was sitting on the toilet and I inadvertently reached to flush.
But then, for the first time in my life, I called this belief into question. Would I really get a cold in my tush if I flushed prematurely? And what is a tush cold, anyway? I had to find out for myself. I pressed down on the lever and took my chances. Once and for all I would find out how vulnerable my tush actually was. But nothing happened. No tush cold. Not even a sniffle.
I was liberated! This experience, silly as it might sound, stands quite symbolic. As children we were taught many erroneous, limiting, and debilitating beliefs. Our innocent little minds were crammed with judgments, fears, statistics, and expectations that, like the bull shark, cut off our reach and ripped our self-respect to shreds.
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